Mediation is a process where an impartial third party helps you and your spouse resolve disputes. Mediation may be appropriate if:
You’re having trouble communicating with your spouse;
Your marriage is falling apart, but you don’t want to divorce;
You have children and want to help them stay out of the middle; or
You and your spouse disagree about how to raise your children (custody) or share expenses (alimony).
The Calgary divorce mediator does not make decisions for you or tell you what to do. Instead, he or she helps you reach an agreement through discussion, negotiation and compromise. The mediator does not take sides, evaluate evidence or give legal advice. The mediator helps both sides understand each other’s point of view so that they can negotiate a settlement that is best for both of them.
Trying Mediation May Be The Best Thing You Can Do
Mediation is not always successful. In fact, some people don’t try mediation because they think it won’t work for them. But trying mediation is often the best way to resolve your legal issues without having to go through a formal hearing process in court. If you have filed for divorce or were served with papers by your spouse to start the process of dissolving your marriage, then Calgary divorce mediation may be an option for you both now and after the divorce has been finalized.
Mediation gives you control over how things proceed so that you do not have to worry about being pressured by either side or feel like you are losing control over your own life during this difficult time.
Putting Differences Aside May Help Bring A Favorable Outcome
Mediation isn’t about winning or losing — it’s about coming together as equals and finding common ground so that everyone can move forward with their lives in peace. If you come into mediation with an attitude of “winning” or “losing,” then you probably won’t get the best outcome possible for yourself or your loved ones.
A Third-Party Mediator Can Help You Come To Terms
A third-party Calgary divorce mediator can provide another perspective and help you come up with solutions that might not have occurred to either of you on your own. Your mediator won’t take sides, but he or she can provide valuable insight into how each of you sees things and what may be causing disagreements between you.
You Will Still Have Your Day In Court If The Mediation Process Fails
Mediation is a very powerful and useful tool at your disposal if you plan on separating from your spouse or partner. But make no mistake, it’s not a magic wand or a quick fix; it takes two willing people—one of whom may be unwilling to budge too much—to reach an agreement through the mediation process. It can be the first step towards full understanding and eventual resolution, but only if both parties are willing to negotiate in good faith. If you still can’t agree during mediation, then litigation is always an option too.